Dating someone with a spinal cord injury
I thought my experiences with Tinder dating in different cities would be different, but weirdly, I found it was totally the same in all three cities.When I first set up my Tinder profile, I wasn't sure if I should make my disability super obvious in my photos.
But then I worried if I didn't include it in the profile, I would feel like I was lying.I was in a car accident when I was 5, when my family and I were coming home from ice skating a couple of days after Christmas, and it resulted in a spinal cord injury, so I've been in a wheelchair for a long time now.I've usually ended up dating guys who I met in real life and my being in a wheelchair was usually never a problem in my dating life until I started meeting guys on Tinder. A., then moved to Boston for work, and now I live in New York City." And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, asshole." I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair. " I seriously had to tell him, "I don't think it's going to be changing anytime soon." He just vanished and I was really bummed about it.
After that, a guy I was sexting with on Tinder for a few weeks replied to me casually telling him that I was in a wheelchair with, "Oh. All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence.You seem like there's something wrong." He just said, "I just don't know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair.