Dating someone who is not yet divorced
There are probably many times you hear reference to your divorced partner’s ex that make you bristle with annoyance and or envy.
Little remarks about how the ex was efficient or good at managing certain situations.
You sabotage your chances of succeeding, because you are afraid that you can’t replace the past.
If you come from a divorced family, you may have unprocessed guilt that acts as a saboteur, making you deny the reality of the divorce – just as you may have wanted to do as a child with your own parent. Above all, discover what you are trying to protect yourself from by ceding what is now your power, back to some defunct relationship that doesn’t exist.
They seem to like each other and he has hinted at taking her out on a date.
I have some friends in common with this man and I've heard that his ex-wife is pushing hard through their kids to reconcile with him but that he's not biting. Let them sort out their garbage before it becomes her's would be my thought.....
Think about your relationship taking on a prominent role and becoming the focal point of your divorced partner’s emotional landscape.
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